Robin Sacks' 1 Minute Mindset

May 27, 2010

When did you stop asking questions?

Filed under: Look in the Mirror,Motivation,Take Control — Robin Sacks...Speaker, Author, Performance Coach @ 8:33 pm

When did you stop asking questions? We all did at some point. Every child is born with the irresistible urge to ask “why?” And they do! Incessantly! So, where is the problem? After all, is that not how we learn new things? Of course it is. The problem is not with the child, the problem is with the world that almost immediately starts telling them to “stop asking so many questions” or “sit and be quite” or “just listen.” The problem is with jaded adults who have already lost their imagination and desire to learn “yet another thing.” The problem is that adults are tired of questions. Adults are looking for answers. Answers they rarely find. Why? Because they have stopped asking questions. After all, that is how you learn something new.

When did you stop answering questions? We all did at some point. If you walk into any kindergarten classroom, you see dozens of children not only raising their hands to answer every question asked by a teacher, but you see them energetically thrusting their arms in the air, holding their elbows with the other hand trying to push it as high up as physically possible. Not only are their entire bodies seemingly in the air, but they utter noises to get the teacher’s attention hoping that they would be the one called on. Funny thing is, those kids do not always have the answer to the question. Sometimes, they are not even sure they understand what the teacher is asking. But, that is not the point. The point is they want to participate. No one has yet told them, including themselves, that they should not raise their hand unless they have the answer. No one, including themselves, has told them that they might look foolish or “stupid” if they do not have the right answer. That same child, a few years later, still raises his hand. But now, only when he has the right answer. A few more years later, he does not even raise his hand even though he has the right answer. Why? Because he does not want to look “too smart.” Now, he just buries his head in his desk in hopes that the teacher does not call on him. That same child becomes an adult and at some point stops asking questions and says, “just tell me what to do.” Why? Because at some point, we stopped believing. At some point we decided it was easier to look like everyone else instead of being ourselves. Now, we just want to do what everyone else does so that we can just get our paycheck.

If you are still looking for any answers in your life and have not yet found them…it is most likely because you stopped asking questions at some point. Start asking again. You may be amazed at how close some of your answers really are when you open your eyes again.

Get curious! Get moving! Get results!

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May 3, 2010

But, I Didn’t Want to Go to Philadelphia!

Filed under: Making Decisions,Motivation,Stress Management,Take Control — Robin Sacks...Speaker, Author, Performance Coach @ 6:16 pm

Imagine you woke up this morning, got in your car, drove to the airport, parked, took a shuttle to the terminal, checked in at the counter, got a boarding pass, checked your luggage, went through security, got to the gate, boarded a plane, flew for a couple of hours and landed. Upon landing, the pilot’s voice booms over the speakers and says, “welcome to Philadelphia!” You turn to the person sitting next to you and say, “but, I didn’t want to go to Philadelphia.” He asks, “where did you want to go?” You think for a moment and say, “I don’t know.” My questions to you go something like this: why did you get in your car, drive to the airport, park, take a shuttle to the terminal, check in at the counter, get a boarding pass, check your luggage, go through security, go to the gate and board a plane?

The strange thing is this is how most people in our society go through their lives…and do not realize it! We do things because we are “supposed to” or we think we “should” yet we never really stop to think WHY we are doing what we are doing or where it is we are even trying to go. We are just “going through the motions.”

Not to confuse a very simple concept, but what if we knew we wanted to go to Seattle? It is completely the opposite way of Philadelphia, right? Yet, what would you have done to get there? You would have woken up this morning, got in your car, driven to the airport, parked, took a shuttle to the terminal, checked in at the counter, got a boarding pass, checked your luggage, went through security, got to the gate, boarded a plane, flew for a couple of hours and landed.

The lesson here is this: If you choose to do things in your life without thinking about WHERE you are actually trying to go and WHY are you doing what you are doing to get there, you can be deceiving yourself into thinking you are on the right course when, in reality, you are so far off course that you are heading in the opposite direction. Unfortunately, too many people do not realize that until it is too late to turn around.

Knowing the WHERE is so much more important than knowing the HOW! Get clarity on the WHERE, take ACTION, and the HOW will appear.

Step out of your life today for just a few minutes and ask yourself if you need to change planes.

Get clarity! Get inspired! Get moving!

“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. “Which road do I take?” she asked. “Where do you want to go?” was his response. “I don’t know,” Alice answered. “Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”” — Lewis Carroll, author —

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