Robin Sacks' 1 Minute Mindset

March 30, 2010

Get Off My Bus!

Filed under: Look in the Mirror,Making Decisions,Motivation,Stress Management,Take Control,Your Bus — Robin Sacks...Speaker, Author, Motivator @ 4:09 pm

It does not get more simple than this. Your internal willpower and motivation are very much determined by the people with whom you associate. Individuals are impacted and influenced by the people who are around them on a daily basis.

OK, here is the analogy:
You are a bus driver in life and you have an empty bus. When you are born, certain people take a seat on your bus immediately when you pop out (mom, dad, family, etc.). Throughout life, you pick people up on your bus and you drop people off along the way. People are constantly getting on and off of your bus. Some are invited, while others are just along for the ride by virtue of your decisions about life and work. You also have people on your bus who are always on your bus, but move from the front to the back occasionally and from the back to the front occasionally. Some of those passengers are healthy and some of them are unhealthy.

So…turn around and look at your passengers. You can pretty much guarantee that most of them look just like you! If you are a miserable, stressed-out, unhappy person who is always finding the downside to things, rest assured most of your passengers look like that, too. If you are a happy, relatively “successful” (whatever that means) person who chooses to see the positive side of life, rest assured most of your passengers look just like that.

Want to know how to de-stress your life and be a happier and more motivated person? Realize that YOU are the driver of your bus, take an inventory of your passengers, and ask yourself 3 questions:

1. Who needs to get OFF my bus? Start with 1 person. What is the first name that comes to mind when I say ‘stress’ or ‘annoying’ or ‘frustrating?’ One just did…didn’t it? You need to realize that you are in control of stopping, opening the door, and saying, “get off my bus!” We hold on to things so much longer than we should sometimes. It is hard to let go whenever you feel you have made an investment in something, whether it be an education or a relationship or an industry. That makes it really hard to just walk away, even when that is the right answer. Never create stress in your life when you do not have to. Personally or professionally, if you need to make a change, you need to make a change. Just do it!

2. Who needs to get ON my bus? When you get clarity on WHAT it is you want to do or WHY you want to do it, the team players become quite evident. Go pick them up! You need to realize that you are also in control of stopping, opening the door, and saying, “come along for the ride!”

3. Who’s bus do I need to get off of? (I apologize for the grammatical incorrectness!) Stop saying yes to things when you really want to say no! What do you dread seeing every time it pops up in your calendar? What group did you get involved with 5 years ago that made sense at the time but no longer fits in your life? Who is the “needy” person who drags you through their minutia just because you are the one who does not hang up on them (trust me, they will find someone else to burden).

It is important to understand that everyone who takes a ride on your bus is there for a reason. It might be to inspire you. It might be to hurt you. It may be to motivate you. It may be to hold a mirror up to you. Good and bad, painful and exhilarating, they all serve a purpose. Do not ever lose sight of that. Choose your passengers wisely.

Get clarity…Get moving…Get happy!

Professionally, Robin Sacks is an award-winning journalist, award-winning playwright, speaker, writer, and motivational trainer. Personally, Robin is a mom, wife, and friend. You can contact Robin through her website, http://www.waycoaching.com.

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